Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Video Voyeur

It’s Hump Day here at Wifey’s House. For those of you who are visiting for the first time, Hump Day happens every Wednesday when I post about sex. This Wednesday I’m curious to know if you view. Are you a video voyeur? Yes, I’m talking about porn.

One of the questions that I answered this week in my Ask Wifey column addresses the question of watching porn. A wife discovered some porn videos her husband rented and was conflicted about whether to watch them with him. Porn is a billion dollar industry and it didn’t get that way by only men and sex addicts watching it. But, somehow the idea of a middle class housewife with 2.5 kids and a dog watching adult videos is still taboo. Perhaps it’s the stereotype that adult videos are all cheesy, poor quality, hardcore and are made only for men. Is it because we were taught to be good girls and good girls wouldn’t dare watch porn? Are we afraid that the Joneses might find out? Or, maybe we’re afraid that we just might like it. Hmm.

What ever the reason, many women still seem to shy away from admitting they like to watch adult entertainment videos. I remember flipping through the July 2007 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine, finding the article “Eyes Wide Open, What Kind of Woman Watches Porn – And Likes It...” by sex educator and blogger Violet Blue, and thinking, Wow, maybe the stigma is getting lifted. If Oprah’s magazine is talking about porn there must be a lot of women watching it. Come on, you know Oprah’s a trendsetter.

So, what do you think? Is the stigma lifted? Are there any video voyeurs out there? Don’t be shy, leave a comment and weigh in… even if you do it anonymously.

Smiles,
Wifey

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I feel like there is still a stimga about watching porn, but it is changing. I think it's fun and exciting to watch - with your man or without him! I have a problem with adult entertainment that victimizes women, involves underage actors or is degrading to anyone in anyway. But there are so many different kinds of porn now, I think the key is to find the level/type you feel comfortable with and give it a try. Wow, I didn't expect to write a porn plug, but I gues I just did!

Anonymous said...

Great points! Thanks for weighing in.