Yes, I was one of the many who went out this weekend to see what happened next in the lives of Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha in Sex and the City. No, I’m not a die-hard fan, but I’m all for a good chick-flick, especially when it contains themes that I can relate to – weddings, married-life, children, sex, self-identity, and being 40, gasp, (OK, I’m not there yet, but 37 is definitely feeling much closer to 40 than 30).
I liked it. I laughed, I cried, I thought parts were perfectly done, and I thought parts were overdone – but isn’t that why we like the show in the first place? While there was so much blog worthy material in the movie, there was one thing that really stood out to me – when Carrie and Big’s wedding got to be too much for him, and he needed to know that it was still just about the two of them. I thought that was big – no pun intended.
I love the fabulousity of a good wedding (I blogged about it last week) but I also think so often brides get caught up in the whirlwind of a “wedding” and forget about the importance of the “marriage.” When a man asks a woman to get married, I’m willing to bet that he has put more thought into spending the rest of his life with his woman, what that means and how that will change his world forever; than what color tie he should wear, who will do his hair or if he should serve chicken or steak at the reception. He might give a lot of thought to the hefty cost of his wedding day, but more often than not, he’s more focused on the bigger picture.
Maybe, ladies, we should take a hint from them. For those new brides who are in the process of planning their wedding, I urge you to have a ball and plan the day of your dreams, but… I also urge you to pay as much attention to your fiancé and plan for the rest of your life together, too. At times, it seems like your wedding day will never come, then within 24 hours, it’s over and gone. That’s when reality sets in and believe me, you’ve better be prepared for it.
Veteran wives, did you see past your stroll down the aisle? New brides and inquiring minds want to know …
Winks & Smiles,