Monday, June 2, 2008

The Bigger Picture

Yes, I was one of the many who went out this weekend to see what happened next in the lives of Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha in Sex and the City. No, I’m not a die-hard fan, but I’m all for a good chick-flick, especially when it contains themes that I can relate to – weddings, married-life, children, sex, self-identity, and being 40, gasp, (OK, I’m not there yet, but 37 is definitely feeling much closer to 40 than 30).

I liked it. I laughed, I cried, I thought parts were perfectly done, and I thought parts were overdone – but isn’t that why we like the show in the first place? While there was so much blog worthy material in the movie, there was one thing that really stood out to me – when Carrie and Big’s wedding got to be too much for him, and he needed to know that it was still just about the two of them. I thought that was big – no pun intended.

I love the fabulousity of a good wedding (I blogged about it last week) but I also think so often brides get caught up in the whirlwind of a “wedding” and forget about the importance of the “marriage.” When a man asks a woman to get married, I’m willing to bet that he has put more thought into spending the rest of his life with his woman, what that means and how that will change his world forever; than what color tie he should wear, who will do his hair or if he should serve chicken or steak at the reception. He might give a lot of thought to the hefty cost of his wedding day, but more often than not, he’s more focused on the bigger picture.

Maybe, ladies, we should take a hint from them. For those new brides who are in the process of planning their wedding, I urge you to have a ball and plan the day of your dreams, but… I also urge you to pay as much attention to your fiancĂ© and plan for the rest of your life together, too. At times, it seems like your wedding day will never come, then within 24 hours, it’s over and gone. That’s when reality sets in and believe me, you’ve better be prepared for it.

Veteran wives, did you see past your stroll down the aisle? New brides and inquiring minds want to know …

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

6 comments:

White Hot Magik said...

I think weddings big or small have a way of getting away and not being necessarily about the couple. I don't think I enjoyed mine too much, there was so much going on and it was a blur. And we had a small, simple wedding compared to the average american. I can tell you the two that were the sweetest and seemed most enjoyed by all were little. One was in a tiny old church, and just sweet and simple. Another was really just a reception for because my cousin fell in love and got married while abroad. But then again, I would have forgone the wedding for a cruise if my husband had agreed, he was the one who wanted the big church thing. Go figure ; )

www.restlesshousewife.com said...

ooh ooh oooh - I had to stop reading your post! I haven't seen it yet...

Wifey said...

White Hot Magik, those two weddings sound wonderful! How funny that your husband wanted the big wedding.

Restless, I'm glad to see you have such self-control to stop - smiles! Hope I didn't ruin it for you!

Busymama Karen said...

My husband and I were married on 9/15/01...just 4 days after the terrible terrorist attacks against our country. We felt guilty going on with the day but our family and friends had all traveled so far. Due to flights being canceled 1 groomsman did not make it, the flower shipment didn't come it, the baker was stuck elsewhere so the cake was not as planned and so on. But none of that mattered...we were so fortunate to have our family & friends safely with us to share the day when so many others had lost loved ones.

Wifey said...

Wow, Busymama Karen! That really puts things into perspective. I bet it was a really beautiful wedding!

Busymama Karen said...

It definitely put things into perspective! Can you believe that after everything else a few minutes before the ceremony it poured with rain...on our outdoor ceremony/reception...we started an hour late while everything was moved indoors! Our guests were so patient. It was a beautiful day and despite all of the hiccups it was "our" day. We had a wonderful time.