Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Sex Signals

It’s Hump Day at Wifey’s House, the one day a week I dish about sex. This week I have a question for you: do you know what kind of sex signals you send to your spouse? And, when you send them?

You are sending sex signals, whether you mean to or not. And, believe me, your husband is reading them, correctly or not. When you’re tired, overworked, and completely distracted your husband can read that in your body language. If you put the kids to bed then go change into your favorite pair of sweatpants and an oversized T-Shirt, he knows his chances of getting them off of you are slim. That’s not to say that he won’t try, but more than likely a red flag went up when those sweatpants went on – especially if you normally slip into something sexy when you’re trying to seduce him.

Do you get into the bed and turn your back on him when you want to go to sleep? Do curlers in your hair mean no nookie for the night? Do you touch him more throughout the day when you have thoughts of getting it on later?

These subtle signs, intentional or not, register with your spouse. It’s important to be aware of the messages you’re sending and when you send them so that you stay on the same sexual page with your husband. Too many negative vibes might leave him feeling discouraged and undesirable. Gasp! Yes, men don’t like rejection anymore than women do, especially when it comes to sex… and they can be extremely sensitive about it.

This week, pay attention to your sex signals. You might be conveying messages that you don’t mean to send. If sweatpants don’t mean hands off, make the first move and let him know. If you are tired and want a pass for the night, sleeping topless might not deter him. Whatever you do, make sure to keep your intentions, and your husband’s feelings, in mind.

Winks & Smiles,


Monkey Toe Momma said...

Great post! I think I send the right signals. I usually don't beat around the bush, so to speak. ;) HEE HEE.

White Hot Magik said...

I am playing catch up, but after last weeks post I am guessing if I go to bed with my ipod on, that would be a signal. ; )

NoblePast said...

Dear Wifey,
I have visited your blog many times, (without posting)and I have to admit that you have very unique insight to many of the important aspects of life. I am however, especially intrigued by your views and suggestions regarding sex. I'll get to my question, in your opinion can love withstand the test of a sexless marriage?

Wifey said...

Thanks Monkey Toe Momma! And, yes White Hot Magik, the ipod would be a huge clue - smiles!

Noblepast, thanks for visiting and reading my blog. What a great question you ask. I think that every couple is different, but I would like to believe that love would not only withstand a sexless marriage, but inspire the couple to fix it. Love is so powerful and should be the foundation of a marriage. If sex or any other area of a marriage needs attention or even professional help, I hope that love would be the motivating factor to get it.