Moving Day

Do you ever feel like you’re juggling too many balls and if you don’t make a change soon one of them is going to hit you in the head?

(insert “Um, hell yeah, Wifey” here)

While I love all of my balls, ahem, I do feel the need to streamline so that I can work smarter – not harder. With that said I’ve decided to combine residences, pack up Wifey’s House and make all of my posts at Ask Wifey – on one blog.

What does that mean for you? More Wifey. While Wifey’s House is where I let loose a little more, gasp, I’ve been finding that I’ve wanted to share the same things on both blogs (figuring out how to say the same thing differently and sending everyone somewhere else all the time gets a little old), so this seems like the perfect solution.

If you read both blogs, now you have one less stop to make; and if you’ve never been to Ask Wifey I look forward to welcoming you to that side of my world.

To my faithful followers, I appreciate all of the love and ask that you come over to Ask Wifey and hit the follow button there so you can continue to get your dose of Wifey. And, to any new folks stopping by, you’re also invited over and invited to click that lovely little follow button so you can keep up with what’s happening in Wifey’s world, too.

My new forwarding address is:

www.AskWifey.com

Can’t wait to see you there.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Last Chance

Tonight's the last night to win this ...

A $25 Target Gift Card at The BlogRollers

Come on. Hurry! What are you waiting for?

Winks & Smiles,

Wifey

That’ll be $1 Please

Having a boy has many perks – simple hair, low maintenance shopping and no high-pitch screaming – but when it comes to things like making sure all of your pee lands inside the toilet, boys suck.

Yes, I’m tired of wiping up misdirected urine from the floor, Gasp!, - Miles is only 7 so it’s not like he’s standing that far from the toilet – but no worries, I’ve come up with a plan to fix his little problem.

I’ve decided to start charging him $1 every time he misses the potty and doesn’t clean it up himself. We’ll see if that can straighten him out – no pun intended. He only has a few dollars so for his sake I hope he learns quickly.

What creative ways have you come up with to correct your kids’ minor malfunctions? Do tell, frustrated mamas want to know …

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

If you haven’t been over to The BlogRollers to check out my new site and enter to win a $25 Target gift card what are you waiting for? I’m also dishing about being married to a big spender at Ask Wifey. So many places to visit, so little time. Go. Now. Hurry.

You’ve Got to Be in It To Win It

Yup, it’s a contest and I wish I could win this …

A $25 gift card to Target

I can’t, but you can by showing me a little love as I launch my new project, The BlogRollers. Please come by, see what we’re up to, and how you can win and join in the fun.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wifey’s at it Again

Since juggling all of the chaos at Wifey’s House clearly isn’t enough, ahem, I’m working on another exciting project with the lovely and talented Christie at My Life … A Work in Progress, and will announce it next week on The ChatterBox Show.

This Monday, April 6, at 10 a.m. EST, tune in to The ChatterBox Show to learn more about our special project as we celebrate the official launch and share some of the very special surprises we’ve got up our sleeves.

I love surprises, don’t you?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

OK, for those of you who don’t love surprises and took the time to read this full post, click here and get the scoop early.

Batting Ballerina

No, this is no April Fools’, that’s my multi-talented daughter knocking one out of the park … on Wii … in her ballerina tutu.

Yes, this is what spring break has come to. I’m half way through three weeks of spring break and we’re all still smiling – sort of.

And, yes, she does reading time in her tutu, too.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! Do you do your ‘do the way your husband likes it? Yup, we’re dishing about hair this week at Ask Wifey. Come chime in …

Another Notch in My Belt

In January when I started my quest to rock a bikini on my 38th birthday I was wearing my belt on the first notch. Not the farthest notch where you have to bypass all the other notches to get to it, but the loosest one, the one that screams, "you can’t get any bigger or you’ll need a new damn belt."

One month ago when I blogged about rocking a bikini on my birthday I had moved comfortably on to the second notch. Well, this Saturday marked a new era for me and my belt. I entered into territory that has never been explored – I put the belt on and fastened it easily in the third notch.

I’m not bragging folks – I’ve punctured belts, and my hand, making my own notches just so I wouldn’t have to go up a size – I’m just trying to stay motivated and maybe motivate one of you, too.

I’ve get less than one month until my birthday and I’ve probably got to slide another two notches if I’m going to rock that bikini – and not scare anyone. Since I’m boycotting the scale notches in my belt, not pounds, are my milestones.

Three down, two more to go…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! Are you married to a sports fanatic? In honor of March Madness I’m dishing about the top ten signs of a sports fanatic at Ask Wifey. You don’t want to miss this one.

Hanging with Mrs. C

While I’m still out partying at the UBP, I made a little pit stop to hangout with Mrs. C.

That’s right, I’m the featured blogger today at one of my daily reads, Hanging with Mrs. Cooper.

If you’ve never hung out with Mrs. C - gasp! - now would be a great time to do so.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Party Over Here

The Ultimate Blog Party, of course.



I got my party on last year with the fabulous ladies at 5 Minutes for Mom and had so much fun I had to break out my little black party dress to do it again.

What’s The Ultimate Blog Party? Damn if I know, I’m just waiting for someone to bring me a drink. OK, seriously, it’s a way to build online friendships and discover new blogs. You give a little love, get a little love and have tons of fun doing it.

This is the part where I’m supposed to share a little about myself… I’m a wife, mother, daughter, sister, author, freelance magazine writer, personal trainer, NBA and NFL fanatic, tennis player, chocolate connoisseur, beer drinker, music lover, blah, blah, blah. You can read more than you probably want to know about me here, so I’ll just give you the juicy stuff:

Husband and I are celebrating ten years of marriage this May – our life changing wedding was featured on The Learning Channel’s popular show “A Wedding Story.” We have two beautiful, busy children: Miles is 7 and Milan is 5 going on 15.

Last October my sister, a girlfriend and I boarded Royal Caribbean’s Brilliance of the Seas and embarked on a two week cruisetour throughout the Mediterranean. Madrid, Toledo, Barcelona, Cannes, Florence, Venice and Capri are just a few of the fabulous cities we explored. Our adventures on land and at sea were filmed and aired March 21 on the Travel Channel’s series “Great Cruises: Why Not The Mediterranean.” If you missed the show it will re-air on April 18 at 8 p.m. and on May 24 at 8 p.m. on The Travel Channel. You can also visit my other blog, Ask Wifey, to view the commercial and a short clip from the show.

Speaking of blogs, come see me at Ask Wifey where I do my best to manage marriage, motherhood and all the mayhem. Once a week I host Wifey’s Q and A and the rest of the time I’m dishing about hot topics and inviting real moms and wives like you to share their experiences and words of wisdom. Wifey’s House is my personal blog where I let it all hang out. Not really. Well, sort of.

For those of you new to Wifey’s House, come on in, stay awhile and leave me a comment so I can visit you, too. For those of you who have witnessed my chaos already, glad to see you were brave enough to come back, please leave me a comment and let me know why.

Now excuse me while I go get my party on. Um, where’s that drink?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

"Reunited and It Feels So Good"

A reunion is probably not the best way to describe my Uncle Tony meeting his son, Charles, after 38 years since he never knew he existed; but, after watching the two together you would think they were never separated.

It was a television weekend for my family – I was on The Travel Channel and my uncle and his son’s heartwarming story made the local news. You don’t want to miss this one. …



And they say there are no happy stories on the news. Love you, Charles! Welcome to the family.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

WAIT! The Travel Channel show “Great Cruises: Why Not the Mediterranean?” featuring me and my girlfriends aired this past Saturday night; and today is the last day to win the goodie I brought back from Venice. You guessed, come on over to Ask Wifey to catch a clip of the show and get in on the contest!

Wait, Is that Me? On TV?

I was flipping channels last night and came across this hot, ahem, football player’s new show on The Travel Channel and then saw ME strolling on the beach in Barcelona.

Gasp!

Yes, it was a commercial for my show airing this Saturday at 8 p.m; and yes, you know I pulled a copy of it. Come on over to Ask Wifey and take a peek …

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

“I’ll Always Love My Mama…”

Today is my mother’s 65th birthday. Hmm, not sure if she wanted me to oust her age but since 60 is the new 50 and she doesn’t look – or act – a day over 50 I think its all good.

I could write a really long post about all of the wonderful qualities my mother possesses – she’s smart, loving, funny, creative, crafty, thoughtful, interesting, loyal, strong and has a keen knack for eyeing a fabulous pair of shoes – or I could go on and on about some of the special memories I have – climbing into her bed as a toddler, becoming her #1 shopping helper when my big sister started school, reading the fun notes she used to write on my napkins in my lunchbox, going to Paris for the weekend in high school, the entire year we planned my wedding – my lists could go on and on.

When you have a mother as special as I do you couldn’t possibly list all of the things that you love about her or all of the things she’s done that have impacted your life – something would inevitably get left out. But, what you can do is say, thanks, Mom, for being you, for loving me for me, and for all of the wonderful things you do.


My sister, my mother, me, my grandmother and my daughter - we run four generations deep!

Happy Birthday, Mom! Love you.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! If you haven’t thrown your name in the ring to win the goodie I brought back from Venice, Italy, head over to Ask Wifey now …

A Little Bling for Your Bottle

It’s finally time … my girlfriends getaway to the Mediterranean will air on The Travel Channel as a part of their “Great Cruises” series this Saturday, March 21, at 8 p.m. (check your local listings to confirm times).

You didn’t think I would go on a fabulous European cruisetour, sip wine, site see, shop ‘til I drop and not bring you anything back did you?

Yup, it’s a giveaway. And you can win this …



… a beautiful, glass blown bottle stopper I brought back from Venice.

Come on over to Ask Wifey to throw your name in the hat. You know you’ve got a bottle that would love a little bling …

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Check Your Girls

Do you check your girls? No, I’m not talking about your BFFs.

Come over to Ask Wifey for an important reminder that should top everyone’s list.

Um, come on … what are you waiting for?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

One Fit Wifey

Hard work pays off. Exercise, eat right, stay away from Girl Scout cookies, give up beer, swear off chocolate and you, too, might become “One Fit Mommy.”

That’s right, one of my favorite bloggers, Lisa at Workout Mommy, is featuring me, today, as “One Fit Mommy.”

If you’ve never been to Workout Mommy, now is the time to go. She’s always up on the latest exercise trends, products and has the best contests, too – I won a fabulous pair jeans a couple months ago! Stop by, show her some love and make sure to tell her I sent you…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

An Open Letter to Girl Scout Cookie Pushers

Dear Cute Little Girl Scouts Who Live in My Neighborhood and Force Me to Buy Cookies:

Thank you for delivering the multitude of Girl Scout cookies that I ordered from everyone who knocked on my door because I don’t know how to say no; because I have kids of my own and pray that someone will buy some of their crap, too; and because I’m simply a sucker for cookies.



It was so thoughtful for you all to unload these boxes on me just as I started my food lockdown. I know that you think I’m an adult and can control myself and you’re right, ahem, I am. And, I did. I knew exactly how many scrumptious Samoas I sucked down and carefully counted out how many classic Thin Mints I consumed.

Please don’t feel guilty because I have less than two months to squeeze into a bikini on my 38th birthday and your delightful little smiles and cookies have thrown a big monkey wrench in my plan. It’s not like you don’t come knocking every year at the same time. I should know better. No, really I should.

The upside is this problem never lasts for long – because the cookies don’t. As quickly as they come in the door they get gobbled up just as fast. Thankfully, the three other occupants of Wifey’s House have no self-control either so I can easily blame them for eating them all.

I’d love to tell you that I’m through with your cookies and I won’t be ordering any next year but I’d be lying. When you ring the doorbell I’ll cave in, happily, just like I always do and might even order an extra box.

Thanks again for your prompt delivery, for increasing my workouts and for only selling your addictive little cookies once a year.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! Ladies, have you ever missed your mother-in-law’s birthday? Are you the date keeper in your house? We’re dishing about that at Ask Wifey. I know you’ve got two cents … come throw it in.

Batting with the Big Boys

Saturday was opening day at the park where Miles plays baseball. This is his first year moving up from T-ball and it’s a whole new ballgame. For starters the tee is gone so the boys have to hit pitches thrown to them by the coach. Speaking of the boys, they’re bigger, they run faster, throw harder and they’re more interested in winning.

Did I mention he’s only 7?

Well, I’m happy to report that Miles can hang with the big boys. He hit a homerun on his first time up to bat and I caught it all with my new video camera.



Nice camera work, right? Ahem, Miles has skills, too. And, I promise we don’t know A-Rod’s cousin – no sports enhancement drugs at Wifey's House.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! The air date for my show on The Travel Channel has been changed. Come here for all the details.

I Need More, Not Less

There’s already not enough hours in the day – now they want to take one away.

Damn.

Don’t forget its daylight savings this weekend; make sure to spring your clocks forward.

Speaking of time, do you get enough just for you? We’re dishing about getting your Me Time at Ask Wifey – come add your two cents.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Time to Let it Go

I know we’re in a recession, but damn, this is ridiculous…



Yes, that’s my eyeliner and I think I’ve gotten all that I can from it – especially since it’s so small I can’t get it out of the top.

Here’s a little perspective…



Can someone please tell me to stop being so cheap – and lazy – and to treat myself to a new eyeliner?

Speaking of doing things for yourself; how long has it been since you took some Me Time? I dishing about it over at Ask Wifey. Come get inspired … or maybe inspire someone else.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

A Hard Act to Follow

I’m not quite sure how to follow yesterday’s post – if you haven’t seen The Breakfast Song click here – so I won’t. But I will tell you that I just bought a new video camera, an Aiptek 720P HD, and once I figure out how to use it I plan on making some videos of my own. No, I can’t guarantee that I’ll top yesterday’s duo, but I’ll definitely do my best.

In the meantime, Wifey’s Weekly Q and A is up at Ask Wifey. I’m dishing about handling a helpful husband and his needy girl friend; and I answer if exercising everyday is really necessary.

I know you’ve got two cents … come throw it in.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

The Breakfast Song

Ironically this video was sent to me yesterday after I announced my food lockdown. Meet my Uncle Jethro and Cousin Verna. No, not really. But I love this like they were…



If you haven’t been by Ask Wifey to weigh in on Lock and Knock, now would be a great time to do so…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Bye Bye Miss American Pie

Isn’t she gorgeous? And, yes she tastes just as good as she looks. That was a piece of my favorite chocolate cream pie that a devoured after going out to dinner with my family last night. And now it’s time to say goodbye. I’m officially on food lockdown even though Husband doesn’t believe me.

“You’ve said that EVERY Sunday for the past four weeks.”

Yes, thank you Husband for bringing that to my attention, but this time I mean it. No, really. I mean it. I have to. See, I set a goal at New Years that I would rock a bikini on my 38th birthday. A little background – I haven’t rocked a bikini since I was … hmm … five. So, if I’m going to do this I’ve got to go on lockdown. My birthday is April 28 and I’ve got a little less than two months to get myself together.

Why am I telling you this? Because I’d love a little help from my friends. Last time I blogged about a fitness goal it helped keep me on track and accountable. And, who knows, maybe I just might inspire one of you to join me in my quest toward bikiniville, too. Yes, you would get to go on a shopping spree.

So, how am I going to do this? By working out and eating clean. Food lockdown does not mean starving myself; in fact I normally eat more when I eat healthier foods. But what it does mean is bye bye chocolate pie and very limited alcohol. Gasp! I know, that’s a big one, but I’ve done it before and I can do it again.

I’m also not stepping on my scale. Last time I became too obsessed with a number that can fluctuate so easily, it’s often counterproductive. Besides, my goal is not about what the scale says, but how I look and feel.

So, encouragement is always welcome. I can also handle tough love. And, if anyone is tackling some fitness goals of their own please let me know – I’d love to cheer you on, too!

Wait! Before you go, a quick question; do your kids miraculously wake up when you lock your bedroom door to have a little fun? I’m venting about that today at Ask Wifey. Come by and let me know I’m not alone …

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Tech Support for Husband 1.0

Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewelry applications which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then …

Come over to Ask Wifey to read more. Not trying to be difficult folks, just not trying to double post!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

There's a Coup Going on at Wifey's House

There’s a coup going on at Wifey’s House … and here’s the culprit leading the revolt.



Its not like he’s trying to overthrow me, but he damn sure isn’t trying to listen. And yes, it’s a dictatorship at Wifey’s House. I, ahem, I mean Husband and I run the place.

Now don’t get me wrong, Miles is a sweetheart. He brought home all A’s on his last report card, he cleans his room without being asked, and he looks out for his baby sister. So, what’s the problem? He doesn’t listen when I tell him to do things. I heard myself practically begging him to get dressed this morning and it made me cringe. I come from the ol’ school when-mom-says-jump-ask-how-high mentality. I’m the only one jumping at Wifey’s House right now. Oh, HELL no! Things are about to change.

One of the best things that have come from me writing my Ask Wifey column is it forces me to think logically. In times of conflict or confusion I constantly find myself taking a deep breath and asking, "what would Wifey say?" If someone sent in a question with my exact scenario it would take me two minutes to spit out the answer – no more threats, act swiftly, dish out consequences, and maintain control. I shouldn’t have to ask a 7 year-old to do something more than one time – period. Especially if he wants to play with his Nintendo DS, MP3 player or any of the other little gadgets that his father and I were kind enough to give him.

So, it’s time to practice what I preach. There’s a coup going on at Wifey’s House, but I’m flipping the script and counter revolting. If anyone has any good tactics now would be the time to share.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Stop! Before you go, head over to Ask Wifey. This week’s Q&A is up and I’m dishing about fighting fair with your husband and the classic toilet seat trauma. I know you’ve got two cents!

Spanish Wine Take Me Back in Time

I’ve finally got the date that my Mediterranean cruise show will air. Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at 10 p.m. on The Travel Channel. The show is apart of their “Great Cruises” series. To read more about my big adventure click here or here.

So, after chaperoning all of those cute little kindergarteners on Friday I definitely needed to go make my weekend picks at Total Wine with Husband. In honor of the show and one of my favorite European countries, both of our picks this week come from Spain.


Me on the beach in beautiful Barcelona. Quietly I was hoping this weeks’ picks would take me back there.



Husband’s Pick:
Estrella Damm Lager Beer, The Beer of Barcelona

Wifey’s Pick:
Toro 2006 (a red Spanish wine)

Both of them taste great, both of them didn’t last very long, and both of them were under 10 bucks … so both of them get a big thumbs up.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! I’m not done yet. There’s a post over at Ask Wifey waiting for you to read it! Aww, come on … it’s about a magazine article I recently published in Heart & Soul.

They’re Letting Me Out of the House

I’m chaperoning Milan’s kindergarten class trip today. There will be more than 80 little, smiling, happy faces like this one …





… all clamoring for my attention. I’ve got my camera, my cell phone, plenty of patience, ahem, and a bottle of extra strength rapid release Tylenol.

Pray for me.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wait! Before you go come see me at Ask Wifey. I’m over there dishing about “mothering” your husband and vacationing without the kids. Come weigh in!

Ask Wifey

Ask Wifey – anything – and she’ll tell you what no one else will.

I just gave my site, AskWifey.com, a makeover and would love for you to stop by and check it out.

Don’t have a question … I bet you have a comment. Don’t be shy, make sure to leave one so I know you were there.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Where’s Wifey?

I’m back. I spent the last four days down at Disney in Florida on a writing assignment and had a blast, ahem, I mean it was productive and really difficult to suffer through. OK, not really, but it was productive and I did get to have a good time – hence this.

So where am I going next? The Chatterbox Show. This Wednesday, February 18, at 10 a.m. EST, I will be chatting it up with Christie from My Life…A Work in Progress on her weekly internet talk show, The Chatterbox. If you’ve never tuned in this Wednesday would be a great time to check her – and Wifey - out.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Idols Everywhere

No, I’m not in California on my way to becoming the next American Idol, but I did have my own American Idol Experience last night.

I’m down at Disney World in sunny Orlando on a writing assignment and was invited to attend the world premiere and after party of Disney’s Hollywood Studios new attraction, American Idol Experience.

Like everything Disney does, they did this big! The set looks just like the show and they found a host that does Ryan Seacrest better than Ryan Seacrest – and is more likeable, too.

Speaking of Mr. Seacrest, he was there to celebrate the event as well as all of the Idol winners and many of the show's previous contestants. David Cook and Carrie Underwood performed; and Disney wrapped the night up with a fabulous party in the theme park.


All of the American Idol winners (yes, I need a new camera, but the pyro/firework effects during the finale messed with the lighting).


The bluetini’s they served as you entered the soiree.

Yes, they served fabulous food, too, but these desserts were much cuter.

Thumbs up for the American Idol Experience; even if you’re not a fan of the show you’ll still enjoy the adventure. Now if you'll kindly excuse me, I'm off in search of a mouse...

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Pics and Picks

Here’s a few behind the scenes pics from the post shoot I did on Friday for this. The show will air on The Travel Channel in March.


Wifey getting ready to answer the tough questions. Yes, I always do television interviews in my socks.

Me and Irene, one of the fabulous producers of the show.

The "Atlanta Girls" pose for a quick pic in between questions.

Later that day, Husband and I found time to go make our weekly picks. They are:

Husband’s Pick:
Leinenkugel’s Fireside Nut Brown

Wifey’s Pick:
Butte Creek Brewing Organic India Pale Ale

Husband’s pick gets a big thumbs up. Unfortunately he wasn’t able to enjoy it because he’s allergic to hazelnut and didn’t realize it had hazelnut in it until he cracked one open; but don’t worry, I did what any good wife – and beer enthusiast – would do, I drank his for him.

My pick, on the other hand, was a thumbs down. I’m working on a magazine article about organic health so I choose an organic beer. The initial taste was great, really fresh, but it had an incredibly strong aftertaste. I don’t think the aftertaste had anything to do with it being organic and look forward to trying another organic brand, another time... really soon.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Wifey’s 25

I know, I know, its Hump Day at Wifey’s House and there’s no sex post. Gasp! There's just me … and 25 things about me.

I wrote this list for the “25 Random Things about You” note that has plagued Facebook and figured I’d share it at Wifey’s House, too.

So, here’s 25 random things about Wifey … please don’t hold, ahem, any of them against me:

1. Napoleon is my favorite husband. Yes, he’s my only one, but he’s still my favorite.
2. I’m a child at heart. I let my kids go down the stairs head first because I remember how much fun it was when I did it.
3. My sister is my best friend; we call each other Mi Hermana (my sister in Spanish).
4. I’m a certified personal fitness trainer … and I love beer.
5. I would eat pasta every day if it wouldn’t blow me up.
6. I live in the south and I don’t drink sweet tea.
7. I gained more than 40 pounds with my second child.
8. I lost 70 pounds after my second child.
9. I’ve run one half marathon and do The Peachtree Road Race every year.
10. The first car I bought was a ’77 white, four-door Chevy Nova with red plaid “Gucci” interior. Her name was Lillian.
11. Some “friends” I went to high school with stole Lillian and crashed her. She was renamed “The Stolen Nova” and was put to rest.
12. My second car was a Chrysler Laser – The Brown Hornet. I drove it until the door fell off – literally.
13. I Twitter. @wifeyshouse.
14. I’m taking piano lessons ‘cause it’s never too late to learn.
15. I went to the best HBCU – Hampton University.
16. I worked for the best women’s HBCU – Spelman College.
17. I had the time of my life working for the “original” LaFace Records.
18. I don’t miss the madness … just the people.
19. I love writing.
20. I’m a “24” fanatic; and I watch “The Today Show” every morning.
21. I love the NBA ... and the NFL.
22. I play women’s and mixed doubles tennis in an Atlanta tennis league.
23. My wedding was on TLC’s television show “A Wedding Story.”
24. I just took a cruise in the Mediterranean for a television show on The Travel Channel.
25. No, I’m not a reality TV star, but I did have dreams of being a sportscaster in high school.

Don’t worry, I’m not tagging anyone, but feel free to throw yourself under the bus and share a few random facts of your own; inquiring minds would love to know…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Sports?

Not if you ask me. Well, not this weekend anyway. I’m still savoring the past two sports-filled days and will probably start going through football withdrawal within the next two weeks.

First up, my little athletes… Miles was hoopin’ Saturday morning. He scored 8 points and was defensive player of his basketball game. Milani, my little shy cheerleader, was the loudest she’s been this year and got a pretty purple star for best leadership on her squad.

Next up a little tennis; or if you’re Rafael Nadal – a lot. Thank goodness for ESPN2 and The Tennis Channel replaying all of The Australian Open action – the time difference put the men and women’s finals on at 3:30 a.m. I enjoyed every second of it – especially watching Serena and Nadal win.

Last but definitely not least – Go Steelers! No, I’m not a die hard fan – if I had to choose, I’d go with the hometown Falcons – but I was pulling for Pittsburgh and enjoyed watching the game go down to the wire.

Through all of the excitement, Husband and I still found time to get to our spot to make our weekly picks. They are:

Husband’s Pick:

Baron’s Black Wattle Superior Wattle Seed Ale

Wifey’s Pick:
Gumdale Shiraz Cabernet 2008

Both are Australian, in honor of The Open. Husband’s pick was great, so great that we never tried mine. Gasp! I’ll shelve it for another time – no drinking during the week, I’m still working on that bikini, remember?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

What's In that Cup?

Am I wrong for drinking an after workout blueberry protein shake in a Heineken beer glass?



I know. I’m shaking my head, too. But at least I’m gettin’ it done…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Sex, Drugs and Rock ‘n’ Roll

It's Hump Day at Wifey's House, the one day a week I dish about sex.

Sex, Drugs and Rock 'n' Roll. OK, nix the drugs, but sex and music definitely go together. Remember back in the day when a sex tape didn’t refer to Pamela Lee, Paris Hilton, or Kim Kardashian? Yes, I’m dating myself here, but a sex tape used to be a cassette of your favorite slow jams that you only played for that extra special cutie.

Fast forward to 2009 – no pun intended – and the almighty iPod is probably the method of choice for those seductive selections.

Almost anything by Prince or Sade tops the list. Seal and Babyface have undoubtedly sung many ladies right out of their panties; and let’s not forget Marvin Gaye’s classics – “Sexual Healing” and “Let’s Get it On.” Aerosmith’s “I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing,” and Maxwell’s “Til the Cops Come Knockin’” have got to be in there somewhere and of course, D’Angelo’s “How Does it Feel” – especially if your iPod plays video.

The list could go on and on and on. How ‘bout you? What’s on your playlist? Music lovers want to know…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Beer, Budgets and Bikinis

Beer, budgets and bikinis don’t normally fall into the same sentence, however, they seem to be intertwined in my life right now. Let’s tackle the beer first.

Husband took me to the most fabulous spirits store I’ve ever seen. Yes, I’m talking about a liquor store, but somehow saying that Husband took me to the most fabulous liquor store I’ve ever seen makes me sound like a little bit of a lush and I’m not. No, really, I’m not. I just enjoy great tasting beer and a glass of good wine – not at the same time, of course.

Anyway, if you happen to be a beer, wine or liquor connoisseur and haven’t been to Total Wine you’re so missing out. The selection is extensive, the prices are reasonable and the layout is inviting. So inviting that as Husband and I cruised the isles eyeing the massive selection of beer and wine, we decided to embark on a little tasting mission. Each weekend each of us will choose a new beer or wine to try that we’ve never tasted before. Fun, right? If you’re a beer or wine lover, discovering new tastes is exciting. Side effects are simply an added bonus.

Best of all our new mission is great for our new budget – the new budget that has us being financially responsible now so we can have financial freedom later. It’s the same budget that slashed our entertainment fund in half. It’s definitely less expensive to BYOB (buy your own bottle) than funneling all of your funds to an overpriced restaurant or bar. Since we’ve committed to saving and staying in more our tasting challenge adds an extra kick to a regular night at home.

So, it’s all good, right? Nope, not really. Not for my bikini. Bikini? Yes, the one I’m planning to fit into by my birthday (April 28). Gasp! Since I already decided that beer is not included in a clean eating diet my new little tasting mission screwed up my healthy eating plan. But, then I realized that I function best when I follow the 80/20 rule. If I eat clean and healthy 80 percent of the time – and exercise regularly – I can enjoy some not so healthy things 20 percent of the time and not feel guilty. When I deprive myself I, like most people, eventually binge; but when I consciously treat myself in moderation, I’m normally able to stay on track. Moderation is key here. We’ll see if it works.

Beer, budgets and bikinis. You’ll probably see more posts about all of these things as I continue to taste, save and get healthy. In the meantime, I figured I share this weekend’s beers:

Husband’s pick
Magic Hat, Not Quite Pale Ale

Wifey’s pick

Dogfish Head, Indian Brown Ale

Were they good? Let’s just say there’s only a few left.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Superwoman is Overrated

Friday’s confession…

I’m not Superwoman.

Gasp!

But that’s OK, ‘cause no one is.

Even though I dedicated a whole section in my book to dispelling the Superwoman – or Superwifey – myth sometimes I still need a reminder.

I, like most new millennium women, often try to do everything myself. The kids, work, homework, exercise, cleaning, cooking, laundry, more work, more kids stuff, the dog, Husband, deadlines and of course all of these things happen with me looking picture perfect in a cute, no, sexy outfit with flawless hair and make up, perfectly painted nails and a permanent smile plastered on my face.

Right.

I love my life and I’m truly thankful that I have all of these things to do. I’m even more thankful that they don’t have to be done all at the same time.

I had a wonderful work week. Ideas were flowing; writing was effortless so I naturally stayed in that zone. Which also means I naturally did not clean the house, take the dog to get her bath, organize my daughter’s closet and my toes are not painted.

At first I felt guilty for not knocking out my To Do list. Then I realized my To Do list had way too much "To Do" on it and I should celebrate all the things that I did do.

I like being productive. Multi-tasking – with in reason – is one of the best skills you can posses, but being Superwoman is overrated – and will eventually cause you to have a super break down.

How about you? Do you try and take on more than is humanly possible? Take off the red cape – and the pressure – and leave the superhero work to the superheroes.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

It’s a Brand New Day

It’s Hump Day at Wifey’s House, the one day a week I dish about sex.

It’s a brand new day. The start of a brand new era. Yesterday our country swore in its 44th president – Barack Obama. A confident, intelligent, capable president who’s ushering in a wave of change in this country; a positive change that reaches so many levels and, most importantly, so many people.


Inauguration 2009, Whitehouse.gov

Watching the inauguration ceremony yesterday, and our country unite and celebrate in such a positive way, left me feeling warm, happy, inspired, patriotic, hopeful, relieved, proud, strong and excited.

If that isn’t sexy, what is?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Still Standing

In honor of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, I want to share this story about Miles that happened last year when he was 6.

Miles has had a thing for MLK, Jr. ever since he saw a video about him in Kindergarten. Honestly, I'm not sure if he's more fascinated with the incredible things that MLK, Jr. did for the civil rights movement or the fact that he got shot - with a "real gun."

One day he asked me if MLK, Jr.'s children are still alive. I told him yes, and that his sister is, too. And, that she works at the same place that mommy used to work. Well, to my delight you would have thought that I told the boy I'm best friends with Zack and Cody from The Suite Life or Hannah Montana. His eyes lit up and he excitedly asked if he could meet her.

“I don't know about that sweetie, but I can see if she will sign her children's book for you. What would you do if you could meet her?”

“I would probably fall down!”

When I shared this story with my former boss, she was as tickled as I was; so tickled that she picked up the phone and called Ms. Christine King Farris and asked her if she would meet my son. I don't know who was more excited - me or Miles! When I told him we need to make sure to take a picture he replied, “yes mama, I'll need it to show to my kids one day.”

Wow.



Miles, the gracious Christine King Farris and her autographed book, "My Brother Martin."

I'm glad to report that Miles didn't fall down that day, but his mommy was completely floored!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Guilty Pleasure

Friday’s confession…

I have been waiting all year for the new season of this…



Friday Night Lights

Yes, I’m a grown-ass woman. 37 years old. No, I've never lived in Texas, never even been to Texas, and my teenage years are long gone, but I still love this addictive show about a small town high school football program – and all the drama that goes with it.

I will be comfortably parked in front of my flat screen at 9 p.m. tonight; and I might even pop some popcorn.

Come on and confess…what guilty pleasure do you enjoy watching? Don’t worry, I won’t tell anyone…

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Let the Games Begin

Another sports season has officially begun for my little scholar athletes. Basketball – a personal favorite of mine. While Miles is ballin’ big time and loving it, Milan decided not to play. Despite my desperate attempts to persuade, trick and bribe her; the cute little skirts and puffy pompoms won her over – she’s cheerleading.

While I’ve been known in the past to get involved and visibly show my team support, I’m taking the low-key approach this season. No shirts, buttons or homemade signs just lots of love, encouragement… and, of course, pictures.



Milan showing Miles some pre-game love.



My little happy cheerleader.



Post game ice-down. No, he isn't bribing the ref, that's Husband staying involved.

What about your house? What activites do you and your children do? Active moms want to know...

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Sex... and Shoes?

It’s Hump Day at Wifey’s House, the one day a week I dish about sex.



Fendi Lace-Up Pump, $740, Bergdorf Goodman

Hot, right?

I’m just sayin’ there’s something about fabulous shoes that screams sexy … and other things. Gasp!

When’s the last time you donned a pair?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

The Power of the Jedi Mind

When I first started this blog I fell into the habit of writing Friday Confessions – posts where I would voluntarily tell on myself about something I probably shouldn’t have thought, said or did.

Don’t ask.

Looks like I’m at it again.

I Jedi mind-tricked the kids into using Target gift cards they got for Christmas to buy underwear for themselves.

I was folding clothes and saw firsthand that new underwear was in desperate need at Wifey’s House. Besides, Miles decided he wanted boxers anyway.

So, I saw the gift cards and excitedly told the kids…

“Ooh, look. Gift cards to Target! Miles you could get those new boxers you want and Milan could get some pretty princess panties! Yay! Sounds like a great idea, right, right? Yay! Yay!”

Yeah, I know. The only things missing were my pompoms and a megaphone.

Their response…

“Cool! Yes! Mom, you’re the best! Will you get them for us! Please, please!”

Oh, and Milan sealed the deal with a really high-pitch scream.

When I told Husband he shook his head and said that I was dead-ass wrong.

If he only knew how many times he’s been Jedi mind-tricked, too.

Shh ... and may the force be with you, too.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

Sexolutions

It’s Hump Day at Wifey’s House, the one day a week I dish about sex.

I started Hump Day last year with this post to help keep sex on your mind - and your to do list. As we begin a new year filled with new resolutions it’s the perfect time to set a few goals for your sex life, too.

Mine?

Right.

I’ll share a few, ahem, to get you started…

1. To try something different. A new position, new time of day, new room of the house…

2. To take a dance class here. It’s sexy and it’s exercise – double bonus points!

3. To do the dance I learn for Husband. Gasp! That would definitely take care of number one on this list.

4. To increase frequency. No explanation necessary.

5. To fit into a bikini by my birthday. No, that’s technically not about sex, but something tells me if I can do it, sex will somehow come into play.

OK, that’s enough. The rest of my list is tucked away safely, booby-trapped with a dye pack and a motion detector.

How about you? Have you made your sexolutions, yet? We're already seven days into the new year...

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

You Mean Beer Isn’t Included in Clean Eating?

Water, hops and barley – that sounds pretty clean to me. A complex carb, right? Right.

OK, I know better, but over the holidays I allowed myself to relax the rules a little bit. I love baking sugar cookies and pound cake; eating holiday hors d’oeuvres and fried chicken, ribs and potato salad on Christmas Day; and yes, I truly enjoy a good glass of wine and ice cold beer.

Yesterday I watched Oprah openly reveal her fears and challenges with weight loss and thought it was one of the best shows that she’s done. She talked honestly about falling off of the wagon and being disappointed and embarrassed about her body. Hello. I don’t know many women – large or small – who can’t relate to that.

I think it’s wonderful that she put herself out there to show people that someone of her stature – with all of the money, power and fame – can still feel insecure and have slip ups. But even more importantly, one of the best messages I got from the show is that you can pick yourself up and get back on the wagon.

Every morning you wake up is a brand new day filled with brand new opportunities to do brand new things.

As I’ve shared before I’ve decided to make clean eating a priority in my life. While I enjoyed the holidays and all of its splendor – and beer, ahem – it’s time for me to get back on the wagon and continue on my quest for a healthy body.

How about you? It’s a brand new day, what brand new things are you going to do?

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

New Year, New Rules

Wifey’s new rules for 2009:

Be Bold
Believe in Yourself
Take Risks
Enjoy the Moment
Think Big
Keep it Simple
Just Do it

Happy New Year.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey