tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post7650642947975684776..comments2023-10-11T08:42:00.665-04:00Comments on Wifey's House: Marriage for Sex or Companionship?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01531001180084362992noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-39017239805490391492008-04-14T08:26:00.000-04:002008-04-14T08:26:00.000-04:00Very well said - smiles! In addition to being fun,...Very well said - smiles! In addition to being fun, sex definitely differentiates between lovers and friends; and should not be overlooked or treated like an "add on." <BR/><BR/>Hopefully this train of thought is not the minority.<BR/><BR/>While I believe that sex is one of the most important aspects of a marriage, I still think that my personality trumped sexual attraction as the reason why he married me. Both were involved, but my personality made him pick me out of all of the other sexually attractive women he could have chosen.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for weighing in!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01531001180084362992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-55724566535203277152008-04-14T03:15:00.000-04:002008-04-14T03:15:00.000-04:00I have to agree with Haltzman. Maybe that puts me...I have to agree with Haltzman. Maybe that puts me in the minority, especially among women, but sex is not just a "pleasant add on" to our married life. <BR/><BR/>We're best friends. We are intellectual equals, emotional confidants, and we nourish eachother's souls in a way that no other person can....but one of our most important roles in eachother's life is lover.<BR/><BR/>If we didn't have sex we'd be best friends not husband and wife. Sex is absolutely essential to our relationship-and while it may not be the foundation of our relationship without it our marriage wouldn't be the wonderful relationship it is.MrsMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13281146542128077304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-38648640964204226852008-04-10T12:41:00.000-04:002008-04-10T12:41:00.000-04:00Thanks, Dr. Haltzman, for commenting and weighing ...Thanks, Dr. Haltzman, for commenting and weighing in with your thoughts. <BR/><BR/>As I said in my post, I enjoy reading about marriage and hearing various points of view - even if I don't agree with all of them. I read Take Charge of Your Own Happiness last night and thought it was right on point - especially the Marriage Myths. Looking foward to finishing the rest. <BR/><BR/>Thanks & Smiles,<BR/>WifeyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01531001180084362992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-89839704664713717052008-04-10T11:23:00.000-04:002008-04-10T11:23:00.000-04:00Hi Wifey,Thanks for taking the time to read my boo...Hi Wifey,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for taking the time to read my book. I ran across your blog, and I think you gave a very thoughtful reading to my book, especially the chapter about sex. Gave me food for thought, anyway.<BR/><BR/>One area of possible clarification is that I wrote, “He ONLY married you for the sex”; I didn’t write “He married you ONLY for the sex” and I think it’s important to distinguish between the two. I hope he married you (and that your readers’ husbands married THEM) for more than sex; most men are eager to say that they strongly value the emotional connection they have with their wives, that they enjoy their company, their humor, their spirit as much as, if not more than, their good looks. If those guys are lucky, they also learn a whole lot more about themselves and relationships because of what their wives bring into their lives. (In fact, lots of guys don’t have any idea that that’s part of what they get when they marry; they only learn that later on.)<BR/><BR/>I think the main point of this section is that many individuals (and, since this particular book is written with women in mind, in this book I am talking to women) think that sex is a “add on” to marriage, to be engaged in when all aspects of the relationship are going well, and to be avoided if there is any sign of dissatisfaction with the relationship. I don’t believe the case, and I wanted women to understand why most men don’t believe this is so either.<BR/><BR/>Hope you enjoy the last 2 chapter!<BR/><BR/>Scott Haltzman, MDDr Haltzmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15203844242713411011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-34189358428407165582008-04-10T07:56:00.000-04:002008-04-10T07:56:00.000-04:00Great comments! Glad to hear that I'm not alone. ...Great comments! Glad to hear that I'm not alone. Could you imagine the pressure to perform if he really did marry you just for sex - yikes!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01531001180084362992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-8206595455143382982008-04-10T00:20:00.000-04:002008-04-10T00:20:00.000-04:00The title of your post TOTALLY grabbed my attentio...The title of your post TOTALLY grabbed my attention. #1, sorry, but the book sounds like a load of C.R.A.P. - I know the reason my husband married me, was because there's MORE to our relationship than sex. One of the reasons I married him, was BECAUSE there was more to me for him than sex. I think a marriage that is based on sex or revolves around sex needs reevaluation - cuz when the spark fizzles out, what's left?Restless Inkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290239393778334305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-45296986647940722732008-04-09T23:06:00.000-04:002008-04-09T23:06:00.000-04:00Wifey, I totally agree with you. My husband and I...Wifey, I totally agree with you. My husband and I have very similar tastes and views, though we don't always see eye to eye. He is my best friends, and I can talk to him about anything. I also know he feels the same way about me. Although great, I think the sex is just an added bonus. I'll have to check that book out - it definitely sounds interesting. Great review!Donna Reed In Blue Jeanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839764794862720611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4512571070882284405.post-33133466750566732342008-04-09T22:32:00.000-04:002008-04-09T22:32:00.000-04:00Interesting post. My husband married me for life-l...Interesting post. My husband married me for life-long companionship and we waited until we were married to have sex, but it is a very vital and important aspect of our married lives.Mrs.Naz@BecomingMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05425021902893463197noreply@blogger.com