It’s Hump Day at Wifey’s House, the one day a week I dish about sex.
Several months ago I wrote this post about women watching porn and the stigma that goes with it. It stemmed from an article that I read in O, The Oprah Magazine. Well, good old Oprah is inspiring me again, this time from her television show, specifically the one she aired on Monday about sex.
Several of the segments discussed pornographic videos, or as it was often referred to on the show, erotica. Oprah talked to several unassuming, everyday, average-looking women about their desire to watch erotica and how it enhances their sex lives. The experts all agreed that erotica can be beneficial to a couple’s sex life, especially when used as tool to increase a woman’s sex drive.
I know, I know, the taboo is still there. Watching porn, ahem, erotica is for men, it’s degrading to women, tasteless and something that good girls never do, right? If that’s the case then please explain how one in every four dollars spent in the $12 billion adult entertainment industry is spent by a woman. Gasp!
Apparently, times are changing. Porn doesn’t have to be just for the boys anymore. It doesn’t have to be degrading, tasteless or something only naughty girls explore. It even has a nice new name, erotica, and is often encouraged by many sex therapists to rekindle the sparks in couples’ sex lives.
So for those of you interested, I’ve got a site for you. I must say, it’s not like the Suzy Homemaker site I suggested a few weeks ago, this is erotica… oh hell, its porn, and they’re not shy about it.
When I went to BlogHer ’08 a few weeks ago, one of the first people I met was J.D. Bauchery, a sex blogger and porn reviewer for HotMoviesForHer.com. While most of the 1000 women at the conference where mommy bloggers I, of course, sat the table with one of the few porn bloggers in the place. At any rate, she gave me her card and encouraged me to check out the site, so I did. In addition to movies, they also have reviews, blogs, sex tips, erotica stories and more.
While erotica might not be for everyone, clearly the number of enthusiasts is growing. If you find yourself the least bit curious, don’t be shy, just be safe, and remember one in every four out of $12 billion in the adult entertainment industry is spent by women – you’re obviously not alone.
Winks & Smiles,